I’m hesitant to analyze it lest I detract from its impact. What is interesting is that the “deficit” is conceived as an enemy, not part of his own side. There is a lesson here for managers, I think.2 Comments
Month: January 2008
How to figure out what you love to do and to get closer to your goal – a step-by-step guide.
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Mark McGuiness has interviewed coaches for the creative industries in the UK for his Master’s thesis.
UPDATE: How is Mark McGuiness doing? I see him on LinkedIn sometimes.
The creative industries in UK account for about 8% of the GDP, I believe.One Comment
Approach a situation by asking questions
1. What do we all agree about?
2. What really matters here?
3. What in our present situation is relevant and different from what we expected?
4. What would be a more interesting way of looking at the world than we did yesterday?
5. How would that perspective expand our agreement and our relationship with the world?
6. What could we experiment with and try out right now?
This list is also so useful for personal coaching when some one is in a jam. The “we” in step one simply becomes what is working well in the person’s life.
A good way to test a psychological theory is to ask: does it “do something to you” or does it help you to find “your place in the family of things” (Mary Oliver’s Wild Geese)?
UPDATE: I saw today a post on what we type into Google. It seems that when we type “is it wrong to”, we are making a personal decision.
When we type “is it unethical to”, we are talking about nothing in particular. Or at best, what other people should be doing!
Today I wrote a post about your psychologist being 100% on you side. Make sure they are!Leave a Comment
What do coaches do?
Some coaches tell you what do.
Hey, who is living this life?
Some coaches say hmmm, haw, what do you think?
What are they contributing here that the cat couldn’t do just as well?
A good coach encourages wisdom
We are all wise, at least a little. But in our impatience to make a decision, sometimes we rush to conclusions.
A good coach helps us do our thinking.
Dialogic thinking: how would other people see this problem?
We could talk to lots of other people, and our coach might ask us to. They will check that we have done so.
They’ll also suggest reading novels and watching movies. They’ll get you to take a “cloud journey” and fly around the world looking down on different cultures and imagine what they are doing right now. It frees up the mind and welcomes in what you know but have pushed aside.
And a good coach will suggest techniques described by Paolo Coelho in The Warrior of Light. Imagine fighting against yourself! That helps you flesh out what you are doing and what you are taking for granted!
Dialectical thinking: how our questions and answers change over time
The difficulty with being a noobe, is that we have no idea how we will see an issue when we’ve had a little more experience!
A coach has seen many people go through the same process of noobe to expert and they know how you will change.
Importantly, they know you will change. They’ll help you approach an issue in an experimental way. Test, redefine, test, redefine!
A good coach shares your journey
A good coach is not only there for you when times are hard. A good coach understands that their wisdom grows from their relationship with you. They too used dialogic and dialectical thinking.
They need to understand your point-of-view about your predicament and your point-of-view about their relationship with you. They too need to see their questions and answers change as as result of working with you.
A good coach is not expert who gives answers or pretends to know behind a hmm, haw, and what do you think?
A good coach is challenged by your views and changes their own mind as they learn about yours.
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Are you wise, sometimes?
Have you ever kicked yourself for making a dumb decision? Have you ever sat there thinking, why did I do that?
Turn on your wisdom
There is a way to turn on wisdom. Peter K Webbs describes the research evidence for promoting wisdom.
#1 Talk a decision over with someone else. They don’t give you answers. The talking brings a wider range of facts and figures to your conscious decision making processes.
#2 Go on a cloud journey. Imagine traveling around the world. Think of different places and cultures. Then make you decision! This is Staudinger’s and Baltes (1996) ‘cloud’ journey.
Complexity in organizatons
Peter K Webbs summarized complexity theory in organizations and psycholoogy very well.
For a poetic account, read Paolo Coelho, The Warrior of Light & Strategy. I particular like the ideas of accepting defeat as what they it is: defeat. I like the idea of preparing to fight by imagining fighting oneself. I like the idea that friends remain with you through good and bad times. They share the journey and the ups-and-downs of the journey.Leave a Comment
Vital and personally meaningful careers in practice. Look here at Career Shifters. It is a British site.Leave a Comment
soothing, relaxing, protective, safe, thank you! NEAVE
Weeks later, I had forgotten about this. Fantastic. You could draw. I just scribble like a frustrated three year old.
UPDATE: Interactive art from London. Fantastically refreshing.Leave a Comment
Diagrammatic models of positive leadership and negative leadership from the US Air Force circa 2004.Leave a Comment