Many of you will remember Galba Bright. The British Sierra Leonian migrant to Jamaica who built a successful emotional intelligence website in less than a year. He died very suddenly and many of us miss him.
Shortly before he died, Galba set me a challenging questions. Do “in tune” people reflect?
When Galba died, I had two unfinished posts on my computer. They’ve stayed here for quite a while and a Twitter poll urged me to publish them in tribute to a man who many of us found inspiring.
This is the draft that I find the more inspiring.
Walking with Elephants
Galba Bright of TuneUpYourEQ asked me to expand my comment that people who are tuned into the world don’t reflect much. I thought this picture of Paul Van R bicycling in Zimbabwe illustrates the point I wanted to make.
Of course, we laugh at first. Then we may wonder whether Paul was being slightly reckless. We question his good sense and wonder if he knows what he is doing.
If he does know what he is doing, if he understands elephants, if he knows when they are likely to walk on the road, if he knows how they will react when they see him, then he is not necessarily reckless at all.
Moreover, if he meets an elephant and the meeting is cordial, if the the elephant was allowed to be an elephant and do elephantly things in an elephantly way, then that evening Paul is likely to relax with some fond and pleasant memories.
Of course, if he doesn’t know much about elephants and he reacts to any elephants he meets in a ways that elephants don’t much like, he might spend the evening in a whole different form of reflection.
We could flesh out this question quite a lot more. I thought it would be fun though to think about elephants.
I think my point is that when we are “in tune” with the world, we don’t reflect very much. We are connected. We are in touch. We are enjoying the world and ‘dancing’ with its rhythms.
When we are not “in tune” with the world, then it is time to reflect. Then it is time to focus on where we are in touch, where we feel vital and alive, and what to follow and do more of.
And as most days are not blissful rides through Africa on a hot, sultry day, some time spent each evening in reflection and when we awake in the morning, helps keep us in touch with what keeps us in touch. Some reflection calms down our fretful helter-skelter rush into stressful activity that is poor replacement for what we love.
We miss you, Galba.