I don’t like anger. I don’t trust it. I don’t like anger. I don’t trust it. We just become one… Read more Legitimate anger
Surprised by your dislike Have you ever had a situation where someone heard the exact opposite of what you said? … Read more I was right! I feel so much better now
Tony de Mello My internet rambles threw up a contemporary philosopher that I hadn’t encountered before: Tony de Mello. Catholic… Read more Not a sudden revolution in human nature but a gradual evolution in human institutions
Writing to understand I’ve been writing myself into this this morning. Does active listening work? And who for? When someone… Read more Is it fair to puncture someone’s anger with active listening?
Active listening I thought I had a post somewhere on basic active listening. It seems not. Active listening is often… Read more Anger: I am angry so that I am important?
Down-to-earth expressions I heard the expression “pull people together” today for the first time in a long time. General Colin… Read more Pull people together? No? Is the problem that you don’t believe in you?
When we are outraged, we don’t make a lot of sense I went to a fairly “diverse” university during a… Read more Find the courage to apologise and invite by understanding the deep hurt
Hate is such an aggressive word Some time ago, I worked with people who used the word “hate”, a lot. … Read more The positive psychology of anger and hate
I spent 6 years’ training as a psychologist and status and pecking order were rarely mentioned. Yet, both status and… Read more Shh! We are talking about status and pecking order and noone must hear!
I am 99% persuaded by positive psychology, largely because I thought like a positive psychologist long before it was invented. … Read more 5 Little Understood Ways to be Resilient in Hard Times