I’ve always been a day-dreamer. It’s not that I don’t get things done. But I’ve known since I was a teenager that getting things done is dangerous. Psychologists like Peter Gollwitzer use more complicated impenetrable language. Simply put, when we are going like a train, we are apt to run over other people and ultimately make a mess.
Better to chill and have a happy routine of work, look about, work, look about. No need to be so stressed.
Living without dreams lacks soul
But to live without dreams, that is stressful. We become increasingly ill-tempered.
It’s a good thing that dreams don’t take no for an answer!
I don’t know what happens to other people but with me ultimately the dreams win. I am fascinated by the size of my doodle books when I am overly busy. I need my day dreams. And I keep breaking off from work to doodle.
When too much dull work locks them out, my dreams simply break back in! I am glad. They are loyal friends.
They are also interesting friends. When I entertain them, ideas roll. I love it.
I had to write a proposal over the weekend and I was astonished by the words that seem to come unbidden from my fingers. Playful language, evocative language, jocular language. Where on earth did it all come from?
A moment’s thought and it wasn’t difficult to deduce. I’ve been doing some more conventional work in more conventional organizations. Everyone is so angry, so abrasive, so concerned that they are losing out.
Any good wishes seem calculated. The smallest problem is a disaster. Little is an opportunity to create a better and more joyful world together.
My proposal was little more than a response to 4 months in an emotional desert. The flowers came out at the first opportunity.
Playfulness and joyfulness begets playfulness and joyfulness – I hope
Then I got two emails from people I don’t know – at all. I had contacted them about their work. In both cases, it gradually had come through that they were having to make a stand at work to be heard. They are doing a good job. Smooth. Polished. And very, very professional. But there was an emotional cost – an unnecessary emotional cost.
With no expectation of any sort of reply, I replied to each raising real questions about their work. I also pointed them to connections and opportunities that might benefit them. They then replied to me with more connections. They weren’t that interested in my ideas but they liked it that I had created a loop in their lives or reminded them of one that had fallen off the radar.
What is your essential environment?
I’d never thought of myself as needing to be in a playful environment. I am not playful person. I don’t come from a playful culture. And that’s the under statement of the year. I can at least make people laugh by taking off the favorite phrase of ‘my people’ – we will make a plan.
But I think I need a playful, joyful environment otherwise I try to be the playful, joyful one. And I’ve not had much practice.
But I sent off the proposal anyway. It began “I’d be delighted to spend my time in the company of lively burbling . .”