Sociologists sometimes write of a masculine culture. Hofstede writes of masculine and feminine cultures.
The ‘prep’ scene in Goodbye Mr Chips illustrates this point. A pupil slams down a books while Mr Chips’ back is turned. This pupil has already challenged Mr Chips successfully on two occasions: mimicking his walk behind his back and disrupting his class spectacularly.
At first, Mr Chips does not know who is making the noise. He cunningly uses the glass of a large picture as a mirror and calls on the boy without giving away how he knows who is the culprit. Then luck would have it that the boy’s name is “collie” and he is able to humiliate the boy by suggesting that is the name of a dog. And so it goes on.
This is a masculine culture. It is based on pecking order, domination and humiliation.
We aren’t being rude about guys. Why should you put up with it either? The story line in Goodbye Mr Chips is that guys were challenging this way of life in 1910, one hundred years ago.
If you want the alternative, look at the scene where Mrs Chips challenges the headmaster. The challenge is based on reason, persuasion, and persistence. Not domination and subjugation. The headmaster deftly avoids the challenge. He rejects an unfamiliar idea, which would be alright in its own terms. He rejects it, though, to restore his domination. Later, in the dance scene, being a wise man, he concedes the validity of the new idea (and validates it by including it in the hierarchy!)
Does life has to be a series of battles? Can we not trade visions? Can we not have Eureka moments when we learn something unexpected? Can we not do the equivalent of come up to a crest of a hill and be amazed by the vista in from of us?
If the 21st century will be about anything, it will be about a currency of visions rather than the currency of force.
Nice post. I particularly like the last statement.
Women tend to work from a place of security, while men work from a place of approval. I’m not sure there is anything we can do to subvert our instincts, however our awareness can make any situation easier to handle.
Thanks Ned. I like your blog too. We may have a common interest in chaos which I am exploring at http://working20.wordpress.com
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domination and humiliation sounds a bit crass for the menfolks but you are right to point out, such was the culture in 1910. A very informative read.
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