I have just rediscovered Aloha Coaching and found their post on conversations:
Bronze is earned from listening to our own voice.
Silver is earned from incomplete conversations.
Gold is earned from voices that are struggling to be heard.
And how do we do this?
In addition to aiming for gold: to hear the voice struggling to be heard,
2. Be patient with silence.
1. Still our own inner voice
Have you seen Jill Bolte Taylor’s TED lecture on her “stroke of insight”?
Jill is a brain scientist who had a stroke quite young. She describes what it felt like to lose the left side of her brain which governs our serial processing – our inner voice. She cries when describes what it was like to be fully aware of the world via the right parallel processing side of her brain. I think they were tears of wonder (though I am sure it was pretty scary too).
I think implicitly she was advocating the idea that we put far too much emphasis on our left brain, serial processing, “I”, “to do” list brain, and not enough attention to what is happening almost imperceptibly around us.
Paulo Coelho advocates similar idea. I have found the idea of looking towards the horizon quite useful and particularly of listening to sounds as far as I can hear.
Galba Bright of TuneupyourEQ has been talking about reflection.
In my experience, some people who are very in tune with the world don’t reflect much. I think that those of us who are have strong serial processors need to make time to relax, reflect and recreate. In the hurly-burly of the world, we can become increasingly inefficient otherwise.
Does stilling our inner voice reduce our own motivation?
I don’t think so. Indeed the opposite. It allows us to hear ourselves too.
Our serial ‘doing’ brain is important. It is what we use during “flow”, I think. Maybe a neuro-scientist could comment on that. When we are in the flow of action, we aren’t listening to anything outside that activity
We need both – action and stillness.
The big dilemma is when we get caught in one or the other!
I am just finishing a sabbatical and have the most awful resistance to getting going again. I know from experience that the adrenaline high of action will take me away from the peace of reflection, and when I am in that place, I will resist coming down.
Have you experienced anything like that?
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