There was David Whyte, on his own, standing at the edge of a ravine in Nepal. He knew he wanted to be at the other side but the rope bridge was in a bad state of disrepair. He couldn’t go on and he couldn’t go back as his friends had taken another path. He was terrified. What should he do?
Situations which frighten the life out of us often have THREE parts.
- A goal that feels distant and unreachable – Whyte knew he wanted to be the other side of the ravine.
- A gap between where we are now and where we want to be that seems impossible to close – the rope bridge was in a perilous condition.
- And where we are now – which in our funk we have forgotten about completely.
The gap between where we are now and where we want to be is sickening. We cannot see how we can get across and we are awash with strong and negative emotions. In this state, we can think of little else.
Now I will tell you that if you are experiencing a deep, debilitating funk every 6-8 weeks, you are not living!
When was the last time that you felt so nervous you almost threw up?
Come with me!
Think of when you last felt that something you wanted was unreachable. Or think of something you presently feel is unreachable.
Then draw the ravine. What was on the other side that you wanted deeply, what is the gap and the frayed rope bridge, and where are you now?
Tomorrow, I’ll tell you the secret of dealing the overpowering emotion and finding ways out of seemingly impossible situations.
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