I think back to the most frustrating times of my life and I felt exactly like David Whyte standing in front of a ravine, desperate to be the other side and with palpitations because it seems impossible.
Whenever we feel frightened it helps to visualize the ravine. And draw the ravine on a piece of paper.
- What is on the other side that we want so deeply?
- What is the gap and the frayed rope bridge that seems too dangerous to use?
- And where are we now?
I want to be clear: when we are really frightened, we forget to do this. And we chide ourselves for forgetting! But we shouldn’t – we are anxious because our dream is important!
When we remember, our task is to imagine the ravine and draw, or jot down, our answers to all 3 questions.
Then we concentrate on question 3 and write down everything we can think about where we are now. We might want to concentrate on the other two questions. That is understandable but we should write down point after point about HERE & NOW. Set a goal – write 1, then write 2 more, then write 2 more, until we are on a roll.
Lastly we underline the parts that work well. This is important. We go through our list of HERE & NOW and underline what works well.
And if you don’t think of something that will move you forward, write to me and complain!
But I guess you will write to me to say how well this method works.
Come with me!
- Think of your biggest dream that you have put aside to attend to your obligations or because you think you have to be cautious during the recession.
- Feel your fear and honor it! You only feel fear because this goal is important to you.
- Then draw the diagram and remember to write down in detail where are now Finally, underline what works well.
Are you feeling better? Can you see a way forward?
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